Playing (adult) dress-up

Dressing up is like stepping onto the stage of your most intimate fantasies – a delightful game of make-believe for consenting adults. Dressing up, with or without role-playing, gives partners the opportunity to don costumes or outfits and accessories and take on different personas or play out scenarios. It’s like opening up a magical wardrobe and stepping into a world of desire and imagination.

Set the scene

Picture this: You slip into a sexy nurse’s uniform, while your partner becomes the seductive patient who needs tender loving care. Set the scene and step out of your everyday persona and into the realm of fantasy – it’s incredibly liberating and mind-broadening.

Dressing up is not just about the outfits; it’s also about the characters and scenarios you create. Role playing allows you to explore desires and fantasies that might otherwise remain unspoken. It's like co-writing an erotic story, with both partners taking on leading roles.

Slip into something sexy

If you’re not into role playing (or you’re not quite sure yet), dressing in an outfit or even lingerie that makes you feel sexy and special is also okay. Humans are very visual creatures, and some strategically placed lace, curve-revealing cloth, or skintight fabric can titillate just as much as nudity. It’s okay to leave something to the imagination!

One of the sexiest experiences a couple can have in the bedroom is undressing – a sultry strip tease, or lots of laces and buttons that need to be carefully undone, can prolong the arousal period and get everyone in the mood.

Not just for Halloween

Whether you’re taking part in a steamy teacher-student role play, a superhero dynamic where one of you is the hero and one is a damsel (or dude) in distress, or a witch/wizard who’s cast a sexual spell, give yourself permission to embrace your character fully. Use different body language, voices, and attitude that is designed to bring your sartorial fantasy to life. It’s like you’re putting on a performance for an audience of just you two (or whomever else you might be inviting into your bedroom).

It’s a fun idea to create a “fantasy box” where you keep your costumes accessories, props, and other dress up items that get your imagination going and infuse some novelty into your sex life.

Creating the mood

Make dressing up a game of seduction. Start by leaving hints or clues for your partner about the scenario you're about to play out. It could be a handwritten note, a text, or even a mysterious invitation. Leave out a costume for them to wear, or deliver pieces of an outfit to them throughout the day. Building anticipation can make the experience even more exciting.

Consent is for costumes, too

Before you jump into costumes and characters, or pop out of the closet with a completely different persona, have an open and honest conversation with your partner about your desires, boundaries, and fantasies. Make sure you're on the same page and that both of you are comfortable with the idea of dressing up.

‍