Pull my hair

Tug, grab, or pull – a fistful of hair gets you hot and bothered! Who doesn’t love to hang on to a ponytail during a bit of intimate action? Hair can be very erotic, whether it’s two schoolgirl pigtails or a long braid that’s fun to play with.

Tug of desire

Hair has long been considered a symbol of a woman’s sensuality, and long hair is seen as extremely feminine and sexy. In some cultures, females cover their hair, or it’s only ever seen by members of their own family, lending it even more of a taboo allure.

Erotic hair pulling comes in various forms, ranging from a subtle, teasing tug, to a passionate, fiery pull. What happens depends on the mood, and the chemistry between partners – a playful tug can be an invitation to get closer, a way of telling someone, “I want you.” A more passionate pull can take place in the heat of the moment, or indicate a level of dominance and power play – a manifestation of intense desire. It’s a way of saying, “I’m in control, but I’m here to pleasure you, too.”

Silken strands

Do you love the feeling of having your hair played with? Does it make you feel a relaxed and buzzy sense of enjoyment? Erotic hair pulling is not about force or aggression; it's a balance between pleasure and sensation. It involves the gentle, controlled tugging or pulling of your partner's hair, sending waves of titillation through their body. The sensation of hair being pulled can trigger a release of endorphins – those feel-good hormones that flood the brain during moments of pleasure. This rush of euphoria heightens the overall experience, making it more memorable and intense.

Hair play

We don’t usually touch the hair of people we don’t know (unless, of course, you’re a hairdresser!), so running your fingers through it, or giving it a subtle tug – not a painful yank – can help create a sense of connection and intimacy.

After you and your partner have talked over the idea of hair play, you’ll want to start slow and gentle. Begin with light tugs and gauge your partner’s response before gradually increasing the intensity. Listen to their cues and body language, and avoid pulling too hard or causing pain or discomfort – you’re aiming for pleasure, not pain. If at any point your partner indicates that they’re hurt, or they don’t like it any more, stop – respect their boundaries. And after your encounter, a gentle scalp massage or running your fingers through their hair can help soothe any lingering niggles. They might also enjoy having their hair washed in a post-coital shower – which is fun for both of you.

Hair accessories

Ponytail holders, scrunchies, headbands, barrettes, clips, hairpins – all of these can be erotic to slowly remove while shaking your hair down around your shoulders. It can also be a deliciously bonding activity to have your partner help you fix your hair in ways that are conducive to a little bit of erotic hair pulling. Have them stand behind you and watch you in the mirror while you put your hair up, or ask their opinion – one ponytail or two? – to get you both in the mood. If all else seems a bit too forward, whispering, “Pull my hair!” in their ear in the middle of a steamy moment can get you both going! But be sure, whatever you do, that you both enthusiastically consent, and that you have discussed clear boundaries so everyone involved feels into it and not unsure.

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