Impact play

Getting whipped isn’t just for cream! Enjoy the sweet and spicy sensations of a good whack – consensually, of course. If you’re into tools, impact play can be enjoyed with a range of toys and accessories.

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Impact play is a consensual BDSM activity that involves one partner delivering controlled physical blows or strikes (usually with their hands or specialized implements) to their partner’s body for the purpose of sexual pleasure, erotic stimulation, or power dynamics. Impact play is typically characterized by a balance of pain and pleasure, and requires clear communication, consent, and the clear establishment of roles such as Dominant (Dom) and submissive (sub).

But first, consent

As with all BDSM activities, obtaining explicit, enthusiastic consent from all parties involved is absolutely essential. This means that both the top (the person delivering the strikes) and the bottom (the person receiving the strikes) must willingly and enthusiastically agree to engage in impact play. Safety is paramount, and it’s crucial to choose appropriate implements, toys, tools, and techniques to ensure that your activity does not cause serious harm. All partners in impact play need to be aware of each other’s physical limitations and any potential risks. Striking certain areas of the body, such as the kidneys or spine, can be dangerous, so care and precision are essential. Using the right implements and practicing proper technique are crucial for safety.

You should have a safe word or signal to stop any uncomfortable activity immediately, or to indicate if you need a break, and it’s the Dom’s responsibility to check in with the sub regularly to make sure they’re still enjoying the experience.

Tools of the trade

Impact play can involve a wide range of implements, from bare hands (spanking or slapping), to specialized tools like paddles, floggers, whips, canes, and more. Each implement produces a different sensation, and participants may have preferences for what they find pleasurable or arousing. Impact play produces a mix of sensations that can include stinging, thudding, or a combination of both. These sensations can range from mildly uncomfortable to intensely pleasurable, depending on your individual preferences, and the tools and techniques that are being used.

Impact play isn’t just for sex dungeons – anyone can experiment with impact play, so long as you’re being safe and making sure it’s consensual. Don’t start slapping your sexual partner around without first talking it over. You might want to start small, using hands, and then work up to specialized tools. There are a number of guides on the internet to safely engaging in impact play, and more tools than you can shake a riding crop at. You can also try using items you find at home – a wooden spoon for a bit of spanking, perhaps, or a ruler for some naughty student/stern teacher role play.

Beyond spanking

Impact play isn’t for everyone, and that’s okay. You or your partner may be more into some light spanking or bondage rather than raising red welts on each other’s skin. Or one partner might be really into impact play while the other is a bit lukewarm. Communication is key – impact play is an erotic experience, but everyone needs to be into it. Aftercare is also a crucial part of impact play, where comfort and physical care are given to the person who experienced the strikes. Tender skin may need soothing cream and gentle handling, and the sub should take some time to rest, recover, and heal if there are any lingering red marks – don’t leap back into impact play immediately; give yourselves time to come down from the experience and prepare for the next exciting adventure.