Role Play

Take the stage

There is something so empowering about assuming a different identity for a night. Becoming someone you have always wanted to be, someone that gives you power, or just being someone other than yourself. Role play takes that same feeling and makes it oh so sexy. But where to begin? What role can you play? And how do you get your partner on board?

Power play

Taking the chance to play with power dynamics is always a great option. Whether you’re exploring the forbidden, fulfilling long held fantasies, or working through some interesting grudges… Types of power play you can try are:

  • Cop/Detective and Criminal: Have you been a bad bad girl that needs to be punished? (Please tell me you got the Hairspray reference). As a bonus, we do love a man in uniform.
  • Monarch and Peasant: Calling all my Bridgerton lovers! Is she a young queen and you’re a mere stable boy? Does she have the power to behead you and you’re the peasant that’s stolen a loaf of bread? Okay my storytelling is getting a little off-book here. But you get the gist!
  • Dominatrix and Sub: Not typically into the BDSM lifestyle but really want to get dressed up in a black leather jumpsuit and thigh-high latex boots? You can always take the role of a dominatrix just for the night. Whips and chains do excite us, after all.

Fantasy land

Fantasy is at the core of role play, whether it’s depicting real life scenarios or something more fantastical. If you have a keen interest in the otherworldly, role play can be particularly exciting. Fairies, witches, Hobbits, superheros, werewolves, vampires… The list is endless. When you’re playing in the realm of make-believe, you are in complete control.

But fantasy doesn’t only mean fantastical. Maybe you want to explore experiences that you didn’t get the chance to have, or want the chance to reimagine. For instance, a common role play is the First Time. Let’s be real, not everyone’s first time was a fairytale. So this can be your chance to rewrite history, or more accurately – hotstory.

Career gurl

We’re all familiar with the mildly inappropriate workplace crush, or the steamy firefighter that’s hosing down a burning building. Some careers or career related situations are simply sexier than others. Let’s dive into a bit of workplace romance:

  • Boss and Employee: The obvious top of this list is a good bit of “Yes boss, no boss” action. Maybe you missed an important deadline and you need to make it up to them? Or you’re desperate for a promotion and you want to demonstrate your dedication. Show them how much you really care about your career and just how far you’re willing to go.
  • Doctor and Patient: Remember earlier when I said we love a man in uniform? Scrubs are hot. A little too tight in all the right places. And who doesn’t love being taken care of? The perfect recipe for a little doctor-on-patient fantasy.
  • Teacher and Student: Okay, we know that any kind of real-life relationship between a college professor and a high-school student is a big ol’ no-no. But we all had crushes on our teachers! Now that we’ve grown, and we’re two consenting adults, there’s no harm in a little “I’ll do anything for an A” role play.

A final monologue

Role play can feel a little silly in the beginning. But being vulnerable and letting go of your inhibitions is what having fun in the bedroom is all about. Plus, when you talk about something you find sexy, your partner is far more likely to find it sexy too. Trust that the bedroom should always be a safe space to explore what really gets you going.

Some final important considerations -- consent, communication, and fun. Getting the enthusiastic green light from your partner is the only way forward. It may also be useful in your role play to introduce a safe word or a safe action. This lets your partner know when the good times have come to an end, or you’re simply not enjoying yourself anymore. Lastly, role play should be fun – as should all activities in the bedroom. Communicate how you’re feeling and what your concerns are before and throughout so you can always keep the fun times flowing.