The 8 types of submission

Oh, you thought submission was just one thing? Think again my friend. We’re about to dive into the world of BDSM and specifically how submission in all its wonderful forms fits within that. From the get-go, submission ≠ weakness. There is nothing weak about being a sub. Submission is about the act of consensually giving your power to your partner in an act of trust; and trust is only ever established through consistent open communication and of course, CONSENT.

Sexual submission

Sexual submission is more commonly known as being a ‘bottom’. Someone that forgoes the leading role and prefers to give or follow the orders of a dominant partner in the bedroom. Although sexual submission can take a range of different forms and intensities, there is one element that is consistent no matter what, and that is consent. Remember when we said submission is the act of giving your power to a trusted partner? (You should, we literally just mentioned it) Without consent, your power is taken, not given.

Service submission

Service submission differs from sexual submission as it isn’t exclusively sexual in nature and doesn’t necessarily involve sexual acts. Instead, service submission could involve doing domestic tasks for the dominant partner, for example. Yes Master, of course Master, relax Master, I will do that for you Master. The fulfillment and satisfaction comes from the dominant partner being taken care of, and the submissive providing the care. The intention behind the act is what takes it to that next level.

Slaves

Slaves however, could be seen as the more extreme version of service. A slave is devoted, willing to give up everything they have for their master. We could make a Ms Spears ‘Slaaaaaaave… for you’ reference here, but given the current climate, we all know that’s not appropriate.

Slaves in the BDSM world are eager, willing and excited to submit themselves to any form of pain, anguish, punishment or activity that their master desires. Of course, as always there is a spectrum at play here. Some slaves want to be told exactly what to do in every facet of their lives - what to wear, what to eat, even when they can speak. Others simply have a deep desire to serve their master but may not engage in as many outward actions of submission.

Brats

What’s better than a little rule breaking every now and then? With submission, so much of the time you’re following orders. By embracing a little brattiness, you get to play with punishment. Brats are looking for a reaction from their partner, they’re cheeky, playful and intentionally disobedient but in a very light-hearted way. Typical bratty behavior includes laughing in response to their master’s instructions, simply saying no, or teasing their master.

Smart-assed masochist (SAM)

SAMs are a subset of BDSM and, more specifically, of bratting. Again, the goal is to get a reaction out of their master. But where a brat is playful and cheeky, and SAM is far more of a provocateur. Some SAMs are motivated by the punishment they anticipate or receive, others get their pleasure from the pain they experience during punishment. Either way, SAMs are known for the intelligence and quick-wit they use to challenge their master.

Littles

The concept of a Little can be something that is quite divisive. Although we’ve talked about consent and communication throughout, it is especially important to note here that taking on the role of a Little is just that, a role. It is enjoyed between of-age, consenting adults. A Little may change their voice, dress up in specific clothes, or adopt the mannerisms associated with being young. Being a Little is often associated with escapism and enjoying the freedom and fun of shedding real life pressures and responsibilities of adulthood.

Pets

Want to know more about pet play? Well it’s your lucky day, we’ve already covered that one. Learn more.

Professional submissive

You may have heard all about professional dominatrixes, but did you know that there are also professional submissives? It is a little less common and a little harder to find, but they’re out there! The services a professional sub provide range depending on the sub and also the desires of their clients. Although it’s important to keep in mind that there are always limitations on what is considered acceptable play.

So, if anyone tries to insult you by calling you a sub, the least they can do is tell you what kind! Education and respect for other people’s kinks as something that is a very individual experience, avoids misinformation and ignorance!

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