Voyeurism For Newbies
The dictionary definition of voyeurism covers an interest in observing unsuspecting people undress or perform sexual acts. Voyeurs are more interested in the act of watching, rather than being watched or performing said sexual activities. By definition, a key factor to voyeurism is that the person being watched doesn’t know that they’re being watched, this is ethically dubious and crosses lines of consent that make the desire to be voyeuristic, problematic at best. However, there are many ways you can fulfil these fantasies without breaking the law or invading someone's privacy and you can do so with enthusiastic consent!
Ethical Voyeurism
If the idea of watching others turns you on and you want to explore this interest ethically and with consent, there are many options for you to wet your whistle!
Pornography
It feels obvious, but a great way to explore this sexual desire is through pornography! Voyeurism is a wildly popular genre of pornography. Even if you have never thought this would interest you, you’ve probably seen or even watched a few “caught masturbating” or “watching a couple fuck” videos online. Pornography is a great way to fulfil this desire without encroaching on people's privacy. Bonus points if you pay for your porn and watch scripted videos!
Some great (and not too expensive) porn sites include:
- Bellesa Plus: Bellesa Plus is a porn site run by women, for women! They have a range of different categories, from scripted stories to verified amateurs. Enjoy Bellesa Plus for $10 a month.
- Joy Bear: Joy Bear offers a range of exclusive content, with a ton of different categories. Enjoy Joy Bear for $8 a month.
- Lust Cinema: Curated by Erika Lust, enjoy professional-grade pornos, acting out real fantasies submitted by users! Enjoy Lust Cinema for $6.50 a month.
Role-playing
If you want a bit more than the virtual world can offer, ask your partners how they feel about role-playing. You can act out any number of fantasies and bring them to life! Find people with similar sexual interests, many people enjoy the feeling of being watched or admired from afar, and using apps like HUD app, where you can filter through specific preferences can help match you with people who like what you do!
Audio Erotica
Use your imagination! There are plenty of erotic podcasts and erotic stories that can make you feel like you're there without being there. Some great places to start:
- Sonic Erotica: As they say for themselves, Sonic erotica is “Free Erotic Audio produced for people with vision impairment - yet appealing to all pleasure-seekers.” Give it a go!
- Quinn: Quinn app is an audio erotica app with tons of different categories. From different relationships and dynamics to sexual kinks, they have a category for you!
Eyes Up Here
If the thought of voyeurism gets you going, you’re not alone. Many people share this desire, but it can be an issue if it affects your daily life or violates another person's privacy or boundaries. A key facet of ethical voyeurism is that at all times there is consent from all parties involved. If your partner doesn’t like the idea of being watched, you must respect those wishes!
If you think someone may be watching you without your consent, contact the police immediately and do not engage with them. If you’re in the United States and do not feel comfortable contacting the police, reach out to the National Centre for Victims of Crime via telephone at 855-484-2846 or online at Chat.VictimConnect.org.