Wax Play 101

Looking to add some spice to your sex life? Wax play (when done safely!) can heat up your bedroom activities, quite literally! The practice was made popular by the BDSM and kink community as punishment by those who take on sadist and masochist roles. But even if your sexual preferences do not involve BDSM, wax play can be a hot, fun and naughty addition to your sex life. Wax play involves dripping wax on your partner, having them drip wax on you, or dripping wax on yourself. The hot wax creates a mixture of pain and pleasure, the anticipation of waiting for the wax to hit your skin can give you a rush of sexual excitement and is a great way to dip your toe into the world of BDSM and sexual power play. If you and your partner are both interested and excited about the idea of wax play, give it a go! If you enjoy it, who knows where you’ll venture next…

Safety First

So you’re keen to give wax play a go but aren’t too sure where to start? Safety first! When dealing with any form of play that involves mixing pain and pleasure, pick a safeword to ensure everyone involved can safely stop if it gets too much or becomes painful! Now let’s get into some safety tips for playing with wax!

Use body-safe wax candles

Thanks to modern innovation, you don’t have to whip out a bath and body works candle in the bedroom (and you shouldn’t!) Body-safe wax candles are designed to melt at a much lower temperature than regular candles, making them far less likely to burn the skin, and as a bonus they often have oils and nutrients that nourish the skin. Win-win! Some affordable and safe options include:

Setting up the space

Playing with anything drippy can get messy so setting up your space is vital to ensure no unnecessary spills spoil your fun! Make sure you’re set up is far from anything flammable and watch out for sheets and flying lingerie. For extra protection buy yourself a fire extinguisher in case of accidents and set yourself up on a puppy pad to make cleanup a breeze. Before playtime, set up a bucket of cold water in case of burns and light your candle at least 30 minutes before pouring on yourself or your partner (make sure to test the temperature first!)

Getting your body ready

It’s almost go time! Because wax hardens as it cools, it can be painful to remove from any areas with hair, shaving ahead of time can stop you from having a different type of wax experience. Another option is to prep you and your partner's skin with oil. Any oils will do (even baby oil!) plus it's an opportunity to warm up with a sensual massage to set the mood! When oiling up (and waxing down!) be sure to avoid the face, genitals, open wounds and hair!

Let’s Heat Things Up

Now we’re ready to dive in! Start small and in less sensitive areas like the back or torso. As you pour, gauge from your partner how they’re feeling, if given the green light experiment with patterns, heights and drip speed. If your partner is responding well, move to more sensitive areas like the arms, neck and legs. As you pour continue to check in with your partner! If it becomes painful or they call out their safe-word you know it’s time to stop! Otherwise, when you're finished pouring - experiment with ice cubes on the hardening wax to give your partner a rush of pleasure! As you play more, you’ll learn exactly what your partner likes and exactly how their body responds to your movements! Practice, as they say, makes perfect. If you want to experiment further, you can use a whip to remove the hardened wax. Remember to always get enthusiastic consent first!

Cool down

Now that you and the wax have cooled down, it's aftercare time! If the wax is stubborn to remove, use a wide toothed comb or plastic card to remove the last remnants of the wax. It’s also a good idea to invest in aftercare gels to soothe the skin. Some affordable and easy to access options include:

The last piece of aftercare - is aftercare. Showing affection through kissing, cuddling, or even getting them water to hydrate, can feel amazing (especially after any form of pleasure/pain play!) Giving them reassurance through words of affirmation is also super important to make your partner feel appreciated and cared for. Take turns massaging the after sun on each other, and who knows? Maybe it’ll spark round two…

Wax play isn’t as scary as it sounds, especially if you do it safely. So have fun dripping, it’ll make you drip!

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